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I married a woman who makes considerably more than me. She was the right one to marry. I can't think of anyone else who'd be willing to put up with me. But examining it from a purely financial perspective, her marrying me would make little sense, at least to ragingpanda. But that's the thing, marriage shouldn't be viewed just through that lens. It is a component, a risk if you will, but you should be looking at your proposed partner's character and who they are and the compatibility or lack thereof rather than just financial. If there are any flags, you probably shouldn't be getting married. Am I the only one though who read ragingpanda's posts and started to wonder if maybe he was an incel or is going to become an incel? It just seemed to be more than just bitter about marriage...seemed to be more about women in general. Maybe I'm reading too much into it though. |
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11-24-2020, 02:16 PM | #118 |
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I married my best friend, so I guess I got lucky. We do everything together and its been perfect since March. We usually do 3-4 family dinners a week, at 6 sometimes 7 now.
Our "rough" patch was when kids were born, we both had "careers" and crazy busy up in D.C. area...so we left and went to Hilton Head island for a few years lol. Came back to Virginia, but central. I can't imagine living in/near a major city ever again...I added 10 years to my life moving, 34 years was enough in that hell lol (yea "hometown" but I used to walk across 495 when built...changed a bit) |
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11-24-2020, 05:34 PM | #121 |
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11-24-2020, 05:44 PM | #122 |
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How is that even a thing? I personally don't like dealing with womens bullshit after having sex with her, so I prefer to pay for it upfront nowadays whenever I get the urge.
Eddie Murphy should have followed his own advice from way back in the day from Raw. I just read that he is paying 25k a month to his ex wife. Happy wife, happy life right? |
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11-24-2020, 07:15 PM | #124 |
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"It's not a libido problem; I've just never been physically attracted to [me]"
I'm not married, but it's not going well, regardless. Counselling is unearthing stuff that I wish wasn't true (on both sides), and with a 3yo kid plus a baby due in January, I have no idea what I am doing or am going to do. If I stay, it's not looking good for my mental state. If I leave, I won't get to live with my kids (and current best plan for earning sufficient funds to pay for 2 homes involves moving to a different country). |
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11-25-2020, 11:12 AM | #126 | |
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You leaving is going to have a wonderful chance of screwing up your kids though. I've seen too many divorces and from that, the kids are almost always affected worse than kids whose parents stay together. Unless there is abuse by staying together of course. Don't know - that's a tough one. Sucks. |
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11-25-2020, 12:08 PM | #127 | |
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Once you leave the house, odds are she turns the ids slowly against you and/or a new guy arrives and now he is dad. With boys, you have the added concern of the emasculation they are undergoing and if the new guy is woke, you're stuck with his limp wristed parenting and you're the bad guy for pushing your kids a bit. Stay. Keep the peace, plan an exit but stay. |
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Thanks for the replies.
I figure I've got to stay, realistically. I just need to work out how to make that positive. Quote:
Going to see a doctor to try and separate what is likely some depression from the relationship issues. I'm very aware that it seems shallow to split up the family basically because I don't get sex...but at the same time it constantly gets me down. Counsellor would offer more ideas for sure, but my partner can't bring herself to be part of the sessions. Going to stop the sessions for the foreseeable - not very helpful since we can only deal with my side of the story. Initial proposals were some ways for us to show some affection, without any pressure. But turns out that if you don't feel the urge to show affection, and nobody asks you for affection......yeah. Looks like I need a spoonful of concrete! |
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