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Originally Posted by floridaorange
Sometimes i wonder if kids simply aren't taught about the sanctity of marriage and the importance of choosing your partner wisely. You have to know your true north and your likes and dislikes before you tie the knot. I was 28, my wife 26, when we got married - i knew, from observing others, that kids are what affect the most change in a marriage - due to a whole host of reasons. But for the life of me, i cannot understand divorce. Or remarrying, sharing custody, etc. It sounds like such a nightmare. Why can't the couple just forgive and love each other? Of course the answers are complicated, but life is complicated! Each individual needs to have a system in place for their marriage to work harmoniously. Having said all that, if there is infidelity, physical or mental abuse, or drugs and alcohol, that's different.
When i was a little guy, i'd leave church wondering how couples expected to start together without God in their lives. And church, although not mandatory, is a big part of putting God in a person or families life. But people these days seem to know better. They don't make God a priority, they don't go to church for various reasons. And then when life really gets rough, they wonder where their support and love is. Hell even this season of Covid I'd not want to attempt navigating without our church family. It's not obvious, it's not mandatory, it's not easy, church. But it serves as a weekly reminder, be kind, patient, forgiving, etc. Does church stop divorce? Of course not. But I wouldn't wanna try marriage without God in the center. Too many bridges had to be made in a marriage that i'm not capable of building on my own.
My wife comes from a family that divorced when she was 8. I know enough to know it's complicated and very very messy. And to this day, it's still complicated and messy.
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Agreed - I'm a Christian and so is my wife. If we didn't have God centering us, there are a lot of disagreements that could have gone a lot further and a lot worse. But ultimately, because we have a center we agree with, we have common ground, and always find our way back and can see our own faults and seek forgiveness for them.
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Originally Posted by Alfisti
Your problem there is god doesn't exist and is a figment of your imagination.
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But what does he have to lose if he's wrong? He tried to be a good person, tried to be kind, and tried to love...all good qualities. And if he was wrong, then he dies and nothing happens.
But your potential problem if you are wrong is so much bigger. What if there was a God and you actively fought him your entire life and died? And were judged and went to Hell?
Then again, I'm a Christian so I have an outlook like his.
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Originally Posted by fiveohwblow
Daily reminded of your joy for life and how much of a pleasant chap you are.
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He does have a certain zest for life doesn't he? My theory is that it stems from having been born in a place where pretty much every living thing can kill you, and IS trying to kill you.